It's not forcing.
I think it's making her notice you.
She wouldn't know how a sweet guy you can be, if you don't approach her and treat her good.
That is trying to force it though, ok you're not holding a gun to her head and saying love me, but you are forcing her to take notice of you.
Also what motivated you? her looks? her personality? fantsising about how great it would be for you both to be together?
All of these are wrong, they are fake, they are what you think, not what you know and most certainly not what you feel as they are not love yet, love has to be mutual, it can't be onesided even if that onesided love eventually appears to become mutual.
And don't even dare mention treating a possible love interest good. That should not even come into it. As a decent human being you should treat EVERYONE decently, regardless of whether you think it would be nice to spend the rest of your life with them or not.
Heck, in such a case your'e even forcing yourself, nevermind her.
By the way Silenus, please don't apply my outlook on life to yours, my belief is not be the be all and end all, especially because as you say I have no experience. Your life works, you found the right one and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Love works in all sorts of weird and wonderfull ways and it's not impossible for two total strangers to meet up and be 100% right for each other, it's just not likely that's all, in most cases such a relationship is destine to fail and cause pain.
If you're going to take the trial and error approach then think of the consequences. There's this almost obligation to be with someone these days, if you're not then you're a failure. When you hook up with someone what criteria are you trying to satisfy and how far are you willing to go? When do you know she's not the right one and it's time to move on? After the first beer? the first date? the first screw? the first kid? What consequences will you deciding to no longer spend time with her have? Perhaps she will blow it off just as easily and find someone new withing a week...but what if not? what if you're the 100th person to dump her and she promised herself to jump off a building if the 100th person dumps her? What happens if she goes to drown her sorrows in alchol and gets into a car and get's into accident which she surivives fine, but she kills someone else's father in the process? Then through your action you've not only ruined one life but two. Now because that of that, the family has lost their primary bread winner and the family gets kicked out onto the streets, the son gets into drugs, the mom is forced to work as an exotic dancer. The son eventually dies on OD, and the mom takes her life because of it leaving the young daughter to fend for herself and she eventually gets raped and murdered in a back alley. When does all this grief stop being your fault? Can you see how much potential there is to hurt others?
These days people only think of themselves and of their personal benefit and they just charge on trying to improve their lives never stopping to think of the consequences. Not realising not everyone is the same as them, that what they can simply brush off and move on from the same thing, that it might just send them over the edge. They don't realise that every action they take in life has the potential to ruin the life of numerous other people.
Valentines Day, the most romantic day of the year. Couples everywhere, birds signing, romantic strolls in the park. But what of those who are not with someone? Some are like me and just shrug it off as they don't really care, but what of those emotionally weaker? Everywhere they turn they see couples kissing, valentines being exchanged, roses being bought, around every corner they are assaulted by the fact that they are single, that they are alone, and with that come feelings of depression and worthlessness and for some it's just the final straw and they go home and swallow a bunch of pills, or turn to drugs to escape this feeling of lonelyness, or slit their wrists. Is Valentines day really such a great day considering how many lives it ruins?
