What do you talk bout with your date or dates?
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We usually encourage them to do most of the talking. It gives us an opportunity to figure them out, and at the same time if they touch on something we are interested in it gives us something to talk about as well.
If they are the quiet shy type...we usually tease about them being so quiet, make some remark about a particular item they are wearing, or pretty much do something to get them talking. We don't find it hard getting people to talk....People are always willing to talk about something that interests them.
If they are the quiet shy type...we usually tease about them being so quiet, make some remark about a particular item they are wearing, or pretty much do something to get them talking. We don't find it hard getting people to talk....People are always willing to talk about something that interests them.
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Sex 
If you can't talk about the same kinds of things that you'd normally talk about with your friends, then it's not worth going out with the girl. If you feel that you can't be yourself and have fun, then the relationship is going to be boring and irritating.
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It depends on how hot she is. I'm willing to sit through a 3 hour discussion about make up, if she's hot enough
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Let's hear it for the guy who's probably never been on a date in his life.ChankastRules said:Sex
While DW and Rhombus both make fair points, they're missing some things. If you expect your partner do all the talking, they're usually going to think of you as a boring individual. Sure, you may learn a lot more about them simply by listening, but dates are meant for both individuals to learn about each other. She probably wants to know what you're all about just as much as you want to learn about her. Find a happy medium with the conversation, but try to avoid any prolonged periods of silence.
Also, Rhombus is right in that you should always be yourself and talk about the things you enjoy, but it's a bit selfish to always expect to talk about your interests. You have to give a little in order to get something back. Imagine the typical user of this forum. If they went into a date and started talking about how they liked video games and their favorite game was Chrono Trigger and their favorite character was Magus because he's really cool and can use magic, it wouldn't go well. Try to be a bit more practical and don't expect your interests to be completely mutual. Look for some common ground, but don't be afraid to talk about new things. If possible, avoid controversial subjects and things like politics on a first date. If you discover that you don't have much in common, then it's probably not worth another date.
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I've been on a lot of dates, and I've talked about sex on quite some of them too
, and about make up for a long time for that matter. I don't blaim you for saying that though, because I know how it sounds (Notice that FIRST date wasn't mentioned anywhere as far as I can see). But you'd be suprised how many women acctually likes to talk about sex, as long as it's not too loud, and they're really intressed in you.That said, these days a girl friend won't let me go on a date unless it's with her
Everything else you said was true though Flare, but it really depends on the girl, some girls are happy to talk about themselves ( or make-up
) as long as you make some comments and appear intressed. While others want you to do most of the talking, and come up with intressing topics. I've found that good jokes are close to always a winner though, besides I personaly love seeing a pretty girl laugh!
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WHAT!? Chrono Trigger is a great topic!
nah, actually its pretty simple. Like others said you need to find stuff that interest the both of you. the best way is to go through things you like. If you start a topic and she thinks completly the opposite of you, id suggest not to start arguing rather move on to the next thing
nah, actually its pretty simple. Like others said you need to find stuff that interest the both of you. the best way is to go through things you like. If you start a topic and she thinks completly the opposite of you, id suggest not to start arguing
rather move on to the next thing
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I realize some girls are that way, but what I was trying to say is that you shouldn't go into a date expecting that to work every time. If she likes to talk a lot, you shouldn't lose points for participating in the conversation, so it's better to start out that way and play it safe. If you notice she's a chatterbox, you can gradually start to back off. Be interpretive and able to adjust according to the situation.ChankastRules said:I've been on a lot of dates, and I've talked about sex on quite some of them too
That said, these days a girl friend won't let me go on a date unless it's with her
Everything else you said was true though Flare, but it really depends on the girl, some girls are happy to talk about themselves ( or make-up
Sex can certainly be a topic of discussion for a date, however not the first date. You'd better be absolutely certain she'll be receptive to that kind of talk before you even attempt it as that's the easiest way to **** things up if you don't know what you're doing.
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Check out FLaRe the "Lub Doctor"...FLaRe85 said:
hehe..no we don't let them do all the talking, but listening helps establish what your conversation should consist of....For example if you find out that she is a wild girl that is open to sex talk...then let the talking commence
Listening is more of a gauge to know what to talk about...most woman cringe at the subject of videogames, but if you listen well enough...and perhaps throw out a character name (like Magus) to see if she is familiar..if she is then gauge if her response is positive or negative..then proceed from there.
*DW dreams of dating an attractive gamer girl*
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I think it can be an intressing topic especially if you've got plans for later that night. But I guess we're all different.
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well usually anything that pops in your mind... it could be reminiscing what happen the last time you spend together, about work, friends, your feeling etc... usually you want to learn more about the other person so you tend to ask a lot of question and at the same time, be prepared to answer here question as well...
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